Are we too protective with kids?
While I was writing about children and serious diseases I have seen outside on the playground a woman bringing plastic tricycle together with the helmet. I couldn't say at that moment where is the border with protecting our kids and overprotecting and avoiding them to learn from their own mistakes. I was always thinking that safety is always first for me. And for sure it is. And it will be forever. But also it needs to have kind of borders from both sides. You need to fall to be able to learn to stand up. I have learn it pretty well, and I still need to learn it and practise it :-).
We need to fall to learn. It is not cruel. Our nature is not to learn experiences from others, but to learn through our own mistakes, an through our experiences. We can get motivated, but that is all. I was biking without helmet, but that was bad. I could kill myself. But wearing helmet for almost no move, is a mistake. The kid will never learn the pain. You can always fall badly and you cannot protect everything. As a parent I understand that we are trying to pretend to be something more to protect kids as gods. But we are not gods. That is a fact we cannot change.
Where is the edge? You cannot define it what is already behind. But you can know what is already behind or too far, in both edges. Also we need to know what we want to teach our kids and what we allow them to each. They learn best when we are not stopping them. That is not advice, it is just what I have learned. The best thing is when I let my kids to learn. Also I need to know when I need to step out and say NO. Hard task, but important.
Also I found huge gap when the family suffer for sick kids. How do we protect them? We need to rise funding, collect money. Which is not bad idea, but why we have to do it and it doesn't reach it everyone. I have read again some article about a mother suffering for some kind of disease and due to that she was not able to pay rents and food for her kids who were also suffering for similar disease as she was. And she decided to solve the problem by killing all of them. Was it necessary? But I don't mean her. I do not judge her. According to article she has tried to reach for a help. What we can do? I am not suggesting to pay her bills. We have our own to pay, but we can look around and not to be blind.
Have a nice day!!
While I was writing about children and serious diseases I have seen outside on the playground a woman bringing plastic tricycle together with the helmet. I couldn't say at that moment where is the border with protecting our kids and overprotecting and avoiding them to learn from their own mistakes. I was always thinking that safety is always first for me. And for sure it is. And it will be forever. But also it needs to have kind of borders from both sides. You need to fall to be able to learn to stand up. I have learn it pretty well, and I still need to learn it and practise it :-).
We need to fall to learn. It is not cruel. Our nature is not to learn experiences from others, but to learn through our own mistakes, an through our experiences. We can get motivated, but that is all. I was biking without helmet, but that was bad. I could kill myself. But wearing helmet for almost no move, is a mistake. The kid will never learn the pain. You can always fall badly and you cannot protect everything. As a parent I understand that we are trying to pretend to be something more to protect kids as gods. But we are not gods. That is a fact we cannot change.
Where is the edge? You cannot define it what is already behind. But you can know what is already behind or too far, in both edges. Also we need to know what we want to teach our kids and what we allow them to each. They learn best when we are not stopping them. That is not advice, it is just what I have learned. The best thing is when I let my kids to learn. Also I need to know when I need to step out and say NO. Hard task, but important.
Also I found huge gap when the family suffer for sick kids. How do we protect them? We need to rise funding, collect money. Which is not bad idea, but why we have to do it and it doesn't reach it everyone. I have read again some article about a mother suffering for some kind of disease and due to that she was not able to pay rents and food for her kids who were also suffering for similar disease as she was. And she decided to solve the problem by killing all of them. Was it necessary? But I don't mean her. I do not judge her. According to article she has tried to reach for a help. What we can do? I am not suggesting to pay her bills. We have our own to pay, but we can look around and not to be blind.
Have a nice day!!
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